So, what are we supposed to do with all these parts? Well, parts are just a part of the equation! The IFS Model points to another element of ourselves; a core Self. The Self holds many qualities we would want in a good leader: curiosity, calm, acceptance, and confidence. We all have a Self although some have more access to it than others. The goal is to help everyone gain access to and lead with The Self. In order to do that we need to ease the burdens of our protectors through a process called “Unburdening”.
Our protectors main problem is trusting our Self to lead safely. When a therapist engages with parts directly, they build trust with the parts and take off some of the weight of protecting us. We convince our parts that they can trust the Self and our protectors will subsequently loosen their grip on the wheel. The ultimate goal is to help clients become familiar with parts that are getting in the way, ease the burden of protection felt by those parts, and let the Self shine through.
If you are interested in learning more about IFS and getting to know your Self, I’d love to meet with you to discuss how the model can work for you. This model was created by Richard Schwartz, Ph. D. and you can find more information about Dr. Schwartz’s work and the IFS Model at selfleadership.org