Communication tips can be helpful in getting to get to know those around you when developing relationships. Discovering differences can be just as informative as finding out our similarities. Sometimes you find a commonality that you felt was oddly unique and end up developing a new relationship based on mutual interests.
Positive self talk
Why is it that our default is to think negatively about ourselves? We aren’t pretty enough, smart enough, tall enough, etc? Well, enough! Focusing on what we are is helpful to build self-confidence and guide us to develop additional skills. Think about “who I am” “what I can” and “what I will” as a communication tip to empower us forward.
The variety of our emotions
It is easier to label feelings by something we can all relate to like “anger”, “sadness” or “happiness”. Unfortunately, this means that everyone probably responds to you in the same way. Being able to articulate your feelings more accurately can be a helpful communication tip to change someone’s response entirely and hopefully get you more of what you were expecting. Check out the feelings wheel to improve your emotional vocabulary.
It is difficult to find solutions to your anger unless you determine what triggers it. Identifying situations, comments or events that bring up large amounts of emotion can be helpful a helpful communication tip for managing your responses by allowing you to plan ahead and put skills in place to help you get back in control.
Often we accuse others of making us angry or sad. Our emotions are our own. We choose how we respond; and acceptance of this allows us the freedom to choose differently.
Stephanie Phillips, LCHMC, NCC, CCTP
Psychotherapist & Owner
The Mindly Group, PLLC