I think it is important to be realistic about your expectations. We all feel our children are the next leaders or Olympic hopefuls. What is more likely is they will be good at what they enjoy and grow up to be similar examples of what we have accomplished ourselves. I believe this starts with identifying our children as “capable”.
If you give a child the opportunity to try, succeed or fail, they will learn quite a bit of information about themselves and the world. As parents we have to start with trust. When you trust your child to do something, you give them the power to feel capable. This works with physical and emotional tasks. Have you ever watched your child after they have fallen and skinned a knee, look to you for a reaction? How you approach them is key to whether you help them feel overwhelmed or capable to manage this issue. Need the research? A 2012 study in the journal Family Relations found that parents who typically “over parented” were found to have children with greater instances of depression, anxiety, and a sense of entitlement.
The world is a big and potentially scary place, but children are designed to reach outside our grasp and explore. So how do you go about training yourself?