How to choose your friends?

What makes a good friend?  Is it what they wear?  Is it what they do?  Is it how well they can keep a secret?  We often find good friends when are looking for people who have what we need not necessarily what we think we want.

Mean Teens:

Just because we might be included doesn’t mean we belong.  When someone hits you it is fairly obvious they don’t like you.  When someone is being sarcastic, teasing or using put downs when hanging out; is it still as obvious?  Recognizing relational aggression is important to determine if your friendships are actually friendly.

The Social Jungle:

Where do I belong?  What would you do to belong?  In school there are a variety of groups to identify with and feel a part of something.  Navigating this path by “being the friend you want” can help you better find what would make you feel like you have found the right place.

To Date or Not to Date?

Figuring out if you are ready can be a bit scary.  If you choose based on pressure from others, you may find yourself making decisions you will regret.  If your social standing demands you follow the crowd, perhaps it is time to reevaluate your friendships and values.

Author:  Stephanie Phillips, LCMHC, NCC, CCTP
Mental Wellness Clinician & Owner
The Mindly Group, PLLC