GIRLS Group – Week 4 Review

posted by Stephanie Phillips, M.Ed., LPC


What makes a good friend?  Is it what they look like?  Is it what they wear?  Is it what they do?  Is it how well they can keep a secret?  We often find good friends when we are looking for people who have what we NEED not necessarily what we think we want.

Mean Teens:

Just because we might be included doesn’t mean we belong.  When someone hits you, it is fairly obvious they don’t like you.  When someone is being sarcastic, teasing or using put downs when hanging out, is it still as obvious?  Recognizing relational aggression is important to determine if your friendships are actually friendly and if you are being the kind of friend you think you are.

The Social Jungle:

Where do you belong?  What would you do to belong?  In school there are a variety of groups to identify with and feel a part of something.  Navigating this path and remembering: ”to have a friend, you must be a friend”, can help you find what would make you feel like you have found the right place.

Under Pressure:                  

Peer pressure is about wanting to fit in knowing there may be a cost.  Determining if doing something is worth the price, can help us make informed decisions and accept potential consequences.  Ask before you assume something in order to have the most information to make the best decision for you.

To Date or Not to Date?

Figuring out if you are ready can be a bit scary.  If you choose based on pressure from others, you may find yourself making decisions you will regret.  If your social standing demands you follow the crowd, perhaps it is time to reevaluate your friendships and values.

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do:        

It is almost inevitable that relationships have a shelf life during teenage years.  Planning on how to survive can be helpful to recover quicker and to feel confident in yourself.  Sometimes noticing red flags can help you not be caught off guard and planning what to say and/or do can help us have the “smart” reaction versus the “emotional” one.

Coming up next week…….Self Esteem

Stephanie squareStephanie Phillips, M.Ed., LPC

Mental Wellness Clinician & Co-Owner
The Mindly Group, PLLC Raleigh, NC