posted by Stephanie Phillips, M.Ed., LPC
Who am I?
It is important to get to know those around you to develop relationships. Discovering similarities can be just as informative as finding out our differences. Sometimes you find a commonality that you felt was oddly unique and end up developing a new relationship based on mutual support.
Positive self talk:
Why is it that our default is to thinking negatively about ourselves? We aren’t pretty enough, smart enough, tall enough? Well, enough. Focusing on what we are is helpful in building self-confidence and guiding us to develop additional skills. Think about “who I am” “what I can” and “what I will” to empower us forward.
The variety of our emotions:
It is easier to call feelings something we can all relate to like “anger”, “sadness” or “happiness”. Unfortunately this means that everyone probably responds to you in the same way. Being able to articulate your feelings more accurately can change someone’s response entirely and hopefully get you more of what you were expecting.
It is difficult to find solutions to problems unless you determine what triggers your anger. Identifying situations, comments or events that bring up large amounts of emotion can be helpful in managing your responses by allowing us to plan ahead.
Often we accuse others of making us angry or sad. Our emotions are our own. We choose how we respond; and acceptance of this allows us the freedom to choose differently.
Comment of the week response to what coping skills work best for you: “Dank memes”.
Mental Wellness Clinician & Co-Owner
The Mindly Group, PLLC Raleigh, NC